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S2. Ep. 2 How to turn your ex into a cockroach (V Day Special)

By Sarah Robinson on February 13, 2021

Sarah and Jade discuss naming your ex after a cockroach and then feeding it to an animal at the zoo. Jade answers a question from a listener who wants to know what she can do to get through Valentine’s Day as a single person, without feeling like shit.

Show notes

Sarah’s bit

  • Buy a cockroach from the San Antonio Zoo and have it named after your ex. It will then be fed to a lizard on Valentine’s Day and live streamed. You can also buy a pre-frozen rat or a herbivore option.
  • Audio recording featured in pod by KENS 5: Your San Antonio News Source:

  • Renfield is a fictional character from the 1897 Gothic horror novel Dracula, by Bram Stoker.

Jade’s bit

Listener question

“I normally don’t mind being single but I recently I had some girlfriends say it’s not their fault that I don’t have a boyfriend or any plans for Valentine, which made me feel pretty shitty so im just wanting some suggestions on what I can do on Feb 14 as a single girl.”

Some ideas!

  • Stop sharing with these friends. They don’t give you what you need, and don’t deserve to hear your story.
  • You are fucking great. They are not being empathic to what you are going through.
  • Make plans for Valentine’s Day ahead of time.
  • Hang out with mates that lift you up. Do it on Zoom if you’re in lockdown.
  • If you can go out, book a massage, a facial or something else that makes you feel good.
  • Plan it in advance, so if you feel down on the day you’re more likely to go out and get out of your head.
  • Avoid social media that day. Because dumb couples will probably post dumb shit.
  • Remember why you choose to be single. Remember that you have worth regardless of whether you are partnered or not.
  • You are whole and awesome, and Valentine’s Day is a commercialised holiday designed to drive consumerism. It’s not really about love anyway.


Jade’s quote

“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: It goes on.”
— Robert Frost.

Sarah’s quote

“Sometimes broken relationships cannot be mended. Because mending them would mean accepting less than you deserve, not having your needs met, or being inauthentic to get along. Forcing broken relationships can be a betrayal of self.”


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